Christlike Men

Section 1

For those interested in some biblical concepts of manhood, WELCOME!


This page is an ongoing work-in-progress.

 

You may be a Christ-follower, or you may be simply peering in from the outside, curious.

 

Whoever you are, I’m glad you’re here.

 

This page is a work in progress.

 

This first section is directly, nearly word-for-word, from a teaching by pastor-teacher and Bible scholar John MacArthur. The reference is at the end.

Some ideas are repeated, but we all probably need to hear these things many times.

If you’re not yet a Christ-follower, I ask you to thoughtfully consider what’s on this page. Don’t be intellectually lazy and simply reject these ideas for emotional reasons. You may find something of value to affirm and strengthen your manhood.

And, if you’re a woman–Christ-follower or otherwise–ask yourself if these qualities embody the type of man that YOU want to be with. Read the entire page. My opinion–it’s “impossible” for women to be intellectually and emotionally honest and say “no.” But, hey, what do I know. I’m a guy. YOU be the judge!

The core virtue of manliness is FORTITUDE: firmness, strength of soul that faces danger with courage and bears loss and pain without complaint.

Someone who doesn’t compromise, even when there’s danger. Fortitude is a combination of conviction, courage, and endurance. To attack difficulty and challenge it head-on.

Men should be the protectors, the purifiers, who secure their wives and children, to accomplish all that needs to be done to reduce evil in a society and produce good.

True manliness is bound up in the word COURAGE. That is the virtue that marks a real man. Truth, conviction, courage.

1 Cor 16:13-14, “Be on the alert (watchful of the dangers around you), stand firm in the faith (don’t waver in your convictions), act like men (fortitude, uncompromising courage), be strong (NKJV says be brave). Let all that you do be done in love.”

Act like men=to conduct oneself in a courageous way. Courage is the stock and trade of a man–courage in the face of danger, temptation, loss, suffering.

This strength in v 13 is then balanced in v 14 let all that you do be done in love.” That’s a man. Real men face life with this type of fortitude.

Your convictions are only real convictions if they stand up under the most intense pressure.

 

Strength and Fortitude:

These are 2 themes, along with related ones, oft-repeated in Scripture.

Deut 31:6, Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.” Moses to Joshua in the transfer of leadership.

2 Sam 10:12, Be of good courage, and let us be courageous for our people, and for the cities of our God, and may the Lord do what seems good to Him.” Joab to the Israelites facing strong opposition

1 Kings 2:1-3, “When David’s time to die drew near, he commanded Solomon his son, saying, ‘I am about to go the way of all the earth. Be strong, and show yourself a man, and keep the charge of the Lord your God, walking in His ways and keeping His statutes, His commandments, His rules, and His testimonies, as it is written in the law of Moses, that you may prosper in all that you do and proper wherever you turn…’” King David addresses Solomon his son, David’s time to die drew near, and he charged Solomon his son

1 Chron 22:11ff, verse 13, “. . . Be strong and courageous, do not fear or be dismayed . . .” David calls for his son Solomon to build the house of God

All these declarations assume that your devotion to God is going to be tested, and that you’re going to have to be strong.

1 Chron 28:20, ” . . . Be strong and courageous, and act; do not fear nor be dismayed, for Yahweh God, my God, is with you . . .” David again to his son Solomon

2 Chron 32:7 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or dismayed before the king of Assyria, and all the horde that is with him, for there are more with us than with him. With him is an arm of flesh, but with us is the Lord our God, to help us and to fight our battles.” Hezekiah, king of Judah, to his people

Men don’t give in to fear. Men don’t give in to pressure. Men don’t give in to intimidation. Men don’t give in to temptation.
 
They don’t seek the easy way. They will take the pain, they will invite the risk, they will confront the challenge, and they will not bow to the pressure to compromise the commandments of God.
 
♦ The strength of a man is that he lives on principle, that he lives on conviction, that he has the courage of those convictions, stands strong against everything that comes at those convictions, bravely faces the challenges in a fortified way.
 
 
Manly fortitude means contending with difficulty, facing every enemy, meeting the enemy head-on, bearing the pain, maintaining self-discipline, upholding truth, pressing on to the goal. That’s what defines a man.
 
Josh 1:5ff “No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life. Just as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you or forsake you. Be strong and courageous, for you shall cause this people to inherit the land that I swore to their fathers to give them. Only be strong and very courageous, being careful to do according to all the law that Moses my servant commanded you. Do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may have good success wherever you go.” Moses gives a speech again as he passes the baton to Joshua. This is God speaking to Joshua in the presence of Moses. An incredible speech from God.
 
This speech is repeated so many times because it is the mark of a man. It takes a father like that to raise a son like that.
 
Spiritual men are courageous, strong, principled, uncompromising, and bold. This is God’s role for men to play in a society, but it’s also his role for men to play with His people Israel. And this is God’s standard for men who lead His church.
 
The legacy of a man to his wife and children is strength–spiritual strength and spiritual courage. Anything but cowardice–the temptation to compromise biblical convictions; to resist the temptation to tolerate the behavior of others that dishonor God.
 
People who have no price have integrity. Integrity is unbreakable fortitude. Steadfast adherence to a moral code. You live by your convictions. You say what you believe, you hold to what you believe, you’re immovable. Psalm 15–…he who walks with integrity…
 
 
Compromise:
 
Compromise runs counter to conviction. The Bible gives us many examples of those who abandon conviction when compromise is more beneficial.

ADAM compromised God’s law, followed his wife’s sin, and lost paradise.

ABRAHAM compromised the truth, lied about Sarah’s relationship with him, and nearly lost his wife.

MOSES compromised God’s command and lost the privilege of entering the promised land.

SAMSON compromised his devotion as a Nazarite and lost his strength, his eyesight, and his life.

ISRAEL compromised the commands of the Lord, lived in sin, and fighting the Philistines, lost the ark of God.

ISRAEL also compromised the law of God with sin and idolatry and lost her land.

SAUL compromised God’s divine Word by not slaying the animals of blasphemy and lost his kingdom.

DAVID compromised God’s standard and committed adultery with Bathsheba, murdered Uriah, and lost an infant son.

SOLOMON compromised his convictions, married foreign wives, and lost the united kingdom.

JUDAS compromised his supposed devotion to Christ for 30 pieces of silver, and was separated from Christ forever.

Some observations: in every case of compromise, the compromiser thought there was something to gain. But in every case of compromise, something priceless was lost, for something temporary, unfulfilling, and sinful.
 
So lack of fortitude, that is the failure of men, of fathers. They have been pounded by radical feminism to give up leadership. And they have succumbed. You do not have a society of men to fight for good and eliminate evil.
 

How do you break that? We need a generation of men who are alert to danger, who stand firm in the faith, who are courageous, with the Word of God, uncompromising and strong.

Manliness will be tested. Conviction and courage will be tested. Strength will be tested. The pressure will come, it will come in unexpected ways. Rom 12:2, don’t let the world squeeze you into its mold.

From a sermon by Dr. John MacArthur, which can be viewed at https://youtu.be/PeXZwjLkeZE?si=aQf-0udaTN33YZGe

 

Section 2

Christlike Character:

As Christ-followers, we are to grow in the character of Christ and into His likeness, progressively over time (ie, Christian growth and maturity), by God’s grace and the enablement of the Holy Spirit.

The Apostle Paul talks about the FRUIT of the Spirit, that followers of Christ are to grow in.

In Galatians 5:22, these fruit are listed as:

  • Love
  • Joy
  • Peace
  • Patience
  • Kindness
  • Goodness
  • Gentleness
  • Faithlulness
  • Self-Control
Peter has a list of growth areas for us as well, listed in 2 Peter 1:5-7:
 
  • Faith
  • Moral excellence (or virtue)
  • Knowledge
  • Self-control
  • Perseverance
  • Godliness
  • Brotherly kindness
  • Love
Peter tells us that as long as we PRACTICE these things, we will never stumble (verse 10).
 
Of course, most are familiar with the “love chapter” in the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13, as it’s been used as a reading in many weddings (less so as the culture becomes both more secular and pagan at the same time). 
 
And for Christian men to apply this in their own lives is essential to being a strong man. 
 
A man who thinks he’s strong but is consistently poor in showing love (eg, I seek your greatest good regardless of how I feel or the cost involved) is actually pretty weak.
 
I encourage you to read the entire chapter–it’ll take 60 seconds–but here are a few things to ponder. LOVE:
 
  • Is patient
  • Is kind
  • Is not jealous
  • Does not brag
  • Is not arrogant
  • Is not rude
  • Does not insist on its own way
  • Is not irritable
  • Is not resentful
  • Does not rejoice at wrongdoing
  • Rejoices with the truth
  • Bears all things
  • Believes all things
  • Hopes all things
  • Endures all things
  • Never ends
Obviously men, no one can consistently love like this on their own. We need the empowerment of Christ Himself, that Scripture talks about often. Additionally, the more we grow in Christian maturity, the better we’ll love. Stay encouraged, keep practicing. 
 
(more to come)
 

Section 3

Character Strengths Demonstrated by Christ in the Gospels:

(Scriptures for each are forthcoming)

Jesus made the greatest sacrifice, willingly giving up His life and dying in your place, taking on the punishment of your sin and paying its price, so you wouldn’t have to.

Jesus drew near to the outcast, the misfit, the leper, the worst “sinners” in society, the sick, and expressed kindness, mercy, and compassion.

Continuing the idea above, Jesus shared meals and ate dinner with tax collectors (in that culture, traitors and the worst of the worst, hated by their peers), prostitutes, and “sinners.” 

“Table fellowship” was a big deal in that culture, as it demonstrated a level of intimacy, affection, and acceptance. 

The religious leaders of Jesus’ day would NEVER have come near the people Jesus intentionally sought out, let alone have dinner with them, as they believed doing so would make them unclean. Yet, Jesus embraced them. Often.

Jesus often physically touched those whom He healed, eg, the leper. Jesus could’ve healed the leper from a distance, but He made physical contact, and said, “Be cleansed,” and healed. 

Why touch the leper to heal him? Perhaps to demonstrate acceptance and love. How lonely the lepers in that day must have been, as outcasts. 

No one was allowed around them, and if someone happened to wander near, the leper was required to yell, “Unclean!” 

The religious leaders of that day absolutely never would’ve gotten close to a leper. Jesus touched the leper, validating his human dignity. And healed him. 

Jesus was gentle with the broken and repentant. When the religious leaders had caught a woman in adultery, utterly humiliated, as a tactic to trick Jesus and catch Him in His words, and thus have a reason to accuse Him, Jesus outsmarted those religious leaders, and they left with their tails between their legs. 

But Jesus ministered tenderly, yet forthrightly, to the woman, and sent her on her way forgiven.

Jesus embraced and blessed children. In that culture, children were at the bottom of society, without much value, not given the time of day. Jesus embraced them.

Jesus broke racial, cultural, and gender barriers. In the story of the woman at the well in John 4, Jesus has a private conversation with a Samaritan woman.

She was a Samaritan (Jews and Samaritans had no dealings with each other), a woman (men didn’t speak to women in public and socialize, believing women were beneath them), AND an outcast in her own Samaritan community (as indicated by going alone to the community’s water well in the middle of the day, when the sun was the strongest, while all the other women went in the morning, during the cool of the day). 

We learn from the story why she was an outcast. Yet, Jesus affirmed her human dignity, in spite of these realities, which was unheard of in His culture. 

Jesus ministered to her, in kindness and truth, bringing healing and salvation into her life, and then to many others in her community.

Jesus’ first post-resurrection appearances were to women. (more examples to come)

While Jesus was gentle with the broken, as stated above, He was RUTHLESS with the arrogant and proud religious leaders

In Matthew 25 He verbally lays them out cold. Many other Scriptures demonstrate this (coming soon).

Jesus stood on conviction. His entire life demonstrated this. Again, read His epic confronting of the religious leaders. He never wavered with the truth.

Jesus directly confronted and called out the twisting of Scripture and the invented harmful religious practices by the religious leaders that led to the spiritual, physical, and emotional harm of the people.

Remember Jesus flipping over the tables of the money changers in the temple, and making a whip and driving out the merchants and their animals?

Jesus protected his disciples. During His arrest, He got between His disciples and the soldiers, saying, “If you seek me, leave these go.”

Jesus demonstrated courage, knowing what was awaiting Him in Jerusalem–His arrest and death. Yet, Scripture says Jesus set His face like flint and walked towards Jerusalem.

Jesus demonstrated a servant’s spirit, by washing His disciples’ feet in John 13. 

 

(more to come)

 

Section 4

Miscellaneous Biblical Exhortations:

Most of these verses pertain to both men AND women. But my audience is men. So MEN, pay attention! 


 “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.” I Cor 16:13-14

 

 “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Rom 12:21

 

 “So then, let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.” Rom 14:19

 

 “Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up.” Rom 15:2

 

 “Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.” Rom 12:9

 

 “Love one another with brotherly affection. Out do one another in showing honor.” Rom 12:10

 

 “Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord.” Rom 12:11

 

 “Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.” Rom 12:12

 

 “Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.” Rom 12:13

 

 “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them.” Rom 12:14

 

 “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.” Rom 12:15

 

 “Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight.” Rom 12:16

 

 “Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.” Rom 12:17

 

 “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” Rom 12:18

 

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church, and gave Himself up for her.” Eph 5:25

 

“In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church.” Eph 5:28-29

 

“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself…” Eph 5:33

 

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Eph 6:4

 

“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” Col 3:23-24

 

“Bear one another’s burdens, and thus fulfill the law of Christ.” Gal 6:2

 

“For each one will bear his own load.” Gal 6:5

 

“Have nothing to do with irreverent, silly myths. Rather, train yourself for godliness; for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.” 1 Tim 4:7-8

 

“Therefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ.” 1 Pet 1:13

 

(more to come)

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